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Sex

• The average age of when people lose their virginity is 16 years old.
• Time magazine says 40% of adolescents have intercourse before ever talking to their parents about safe sex, birth control, or sexually transmitted diseases.
• 1/3 of students experienced precoital touching behaviors
  >> 43% of these students experienced sexual intercourse
• 12% of students experienced vaginal sex by age 12
• 7.9% of students experienced oral sex by age 12
• 6.5% of students experienced anal sex by age 12
• 4% of students experienced all three types of sex by age 12

Among sexually active middle school students:

• 1/3 experienced vaginal or anal sex without a condom within the past three months
• 1/4 had four or more partners
• Currently, the United States has 750,000 teenage pregnancies each year.
• One in four (25%) U.S. teen girls have sexually transmitted infections.
• In 2008, 4 out of every 1000 people reported that they had Chlamydia.
• And every 1 out of 1000 people reported that they had Gonorrhea.
• In 2004, 745,000 pregnancies of girls under 20. In 2006, 22,000 10-24 year olds have HIV/AIDS.
• In 2006, 1 million 10-24 year olds have Chlamydia, gonorrhea, or syphilis.
• In 2008, King County spent $4.4 million dollars on STD funding.

Many students don’t know the bible and can’t even quote John 3:16, but they can quote an entire song about sex.

Parents quoted songs from the Beatles, “I wanna hold your hand,” and the youth are quoting songs from Beyonce, “I know you want my body. Tonight I’ll be your naughty girl.”

Oral sex

A spouse would not be faithful to their spouse if they have been having oral sex with someone else. They would be unfaithful. Oral sex is sex.

Porn 

• $12 billion a year is spent on porn. That is more money than spent on baseball, football, and basketball combined. Baseball in now longer America’s favorite pastime.
• 90% of youth ages 8-16 view porn online.
• Average child sees porn online at age 11.
• And boys 12-17 are the highest rate of porn viewers.
• Some of the junior high and high schoolers in youth ministries probably have naked pictures of their girlfriends on their phones.

 Top 100 Kid’s Searches Online (18yrs and under)

• #4 – Sex (#4 for boys & #5 for girls)
• #5 – Porn (#5 for boys & #24 for girls)
• #32 – Boobs (#17 for boys)

We must teach them that porn is porn, regardless of the source, and sexual impurity is a sin in any form.

Masturbation

When thought about, sex alone with one’s self does not make sense. In fact, it’s not sex at all. It’s simply self-gratification. By attempting to gratify one’s self, one believes that they are independent of anyone else to meet their sexual needs. They become sexually selfish, and when married, have no desire to satisfy their spouse’s sexual needs. Rather, they seek to satisfy themselves by using their spouse for sex. This is still selfish sex. Masturbation, which is self-sex, leads to all sorts of selfishness.

Sex in the Bible

Song of Solomon 8:4 – Do not awaken love until the time is right.

Job 31:1 – I made a covenant with my eyes not to look upon another lustfully.

God’s Idea of Sex Displayed in Jesus

Sexual sin — in all it’s forms – is all bad. Jesus said whoever looks at a woman and lusts in his heart has committed sin. The issue is lusting. It’s a matter of the heart. Is your heart full of self-interest that you have to gratify yourself by looking at others lustfully?

God demonstrated his love for us through Jesus. Jesus lived in holiness, purity, and celibacy as a single person.

• Sex is not God. Don’t worship sex. In the Old Testament, people had perverse sex issues. In the New Testament, people had temples for sex. 1 Corinthians describes temples with 1000’s of prostitutes. People were confused. Paul had to straighten some things out: can’t have sex with mom, family, outside marriage, more than one person.
• Sex is not gross. It’s not dirty, nasty, violent, or wrong. Some Historical Theologians say that the human body is bad, so anything that pleases the body must be bad, therefore sex is bad. That is wrong. We do not want to deny ourselves and our own pleasure. We do not want to say that sex is to be avoided. Rather, sex is to be waited. Unfortunately, Christians are known more for what they are against than what they are for. People say that Christians are against all sorts of things, and sex is one of those things that we are labeled as being against. The reasons why people think Christians are against sin is because we preach so much against sex outside of marriage, that they interpret it as we must be against all sex. Sex isn’t gross and we aren’t against it.  
• Sex is a gift that God gives us to treasure, steward, save, protect, and within the context of marriage to shared, cultivated, and enjoyed.

Jeremiah 2:13 – People abandoned God, the Living Water and decided to drink unclean water from self-made cisterns. They were drinking impure, dirty water. If you’re thirsty, don’t drink from the toilet. Although there is water there, don’t drink from it. It will make you sick and unhealthy. If you want what’s good for you, then go to the place where there is healthy wholesome water. If you want good sex, then go to the place where you can find good sex. That is within marriage, learned from God through scripture. Dont abandon God’s design for good wholesome sex.

God made man and woman and said it was good. They must have had sex in the garden. And they didn’t get kicked out of the garden for having sex. So God confirmed that sex was ok.

God’s plan is not that people would date, date, date, date, date, kiss, kiss, kiss, touch, touch, touch with different people and then try to figure out what you like. God’s plan is that you would be interested in your spouse. God doesn’t want you to compare your desires and then try to choose what you think is the best, where you try to pick and choose all your desires, because then you would be lusting. God wants you to be satisfied in your spouse, and you can’t be satisfied in your spouse if you are constantly comparing, or lusting, about others. Constant dating, kissing, touching, and sexing before, or outside of marriage, creates mindsets that comparisons are ok. And when you get married, all you will do is compare your spouse to others, and probably conclude that your spouse isn’t like someone else, and then adultery happens.

Zechariah 3:3 – Zechariah was wearing filthy rags, but God took away his filthy rags and put new clothes on him. You don’t want to give someone a filthy rag. You may feel filthy, but God takes away our filthiness and gives us righteousness. He makes you new and pure. Just because you have made mistakes, it doesn’t disqualify you. You just need to ask God to change your life, make you new, pure, clean, and righteous.

Do you see yourself as Jesus sees you? As clean? As righteous?